Can Motivational Talks Really Change You?
Kenneth speaking to 120 of Becton Dickinson's Asia Pacific Staff
Do you personally think that motivational talks are important? Or is it some kind of high energy rubbish designed to make people feel good for one day and before it dissipates next day?
So… What do the experts got to say?
First of all, I’m a Certified Behaviourial Consultant and according to motivational theory, it is believed that we cannot ‘motivate’ another person. A person can only motivate himself/herself. Therefore, we cannot ‘change’ a person, but we can influence them. We can influence them to a set of thinking patterns and help them create more empowering belief systems that will make them be more resourceful in life. This leads to them becoming more successful.
People have asked me whether motivation really works and my magic answer to them is:
“It depends….”
It depends if this person is open to change.
It depends if this person is currently happy with the results that he/she is getting.
It depends whether this person at this stage of his/her life is hungry to learn.
I have given many talks to multi-national corporations and government agencies. In my experience, no two people are similar in their appetite for learning and growth. One person can be so fired up and talking about the philosophies that I have just shared, while the other person next to him just claps his hands and asks when is lunch break?
Kenneth sharing a personal story
But one thing I know, I can influence a crowd to relook at their lives, look at where they are and how much greater they can be. What I am doing is creating a desire for change and it will be up to them to decide how they want to change their lives. When people understand that they have the power to change and make a difference, they will not want to be the same again.
When you truly empower people, the results are phenomenal. I have a lot of people usually coming up to me at the end of the seminar saying that it has changed the way they think and the principles taught are really useful for the workplace.
CAUTION: Let me warn you… motivation is like eating. You need to feed yourself with a healthy dose of it every day. I mean… can you survive a week just by eating a day? Some people have this weird belief that motivation is a one day thing that will TOTALLY change your live. I see it as a process where we find out what motivates us and bathe in it every day to get the results that you want.
So… back to the question, does motivation really change you and make you successful? It depends whether you choose to let it and then take massive action to make things happen.
PS: If you need someone to get people to be pro-active and change mindsets, you can engage me to speak for your organisation.
Related Readings:
The One Decision That Changed My Life
How to Motivate Yourself for Greater Heights!
Importance of Surrounding Yourself With the Right People
Article Featured in Straits Times, Recruit (Pg C40- Dated Friday, 26 Feb 2010)
I got an email from the Straits Times Editor saying that my article will be published in today’s newspaper. Building A Successful Team is something close to my heart and I hope to share this with you.
To read the entire unedited article, click on How do I Create my ‘A’ team?
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Did You Learn From Your Mistakes?
Everyone makes mistakes, the question is whether we truly learn from them. I personally feel that there is a great deal to be learnt from mistakes, provided it does not crush your spirit.
Things happen in life so that we become stronger and wiser from our mistakes. In fact, in the last 2 years, Deep Impact’s growth as a Impactful Teambuilding company were a result of mistakes that we made and learnt from. It was the commitment of not making the same mistakes twice that helped us to become much better.
It is also important to learn from other people’s mistakes, so that we do not need to pay the price they have paid for it.
Listen to Starbucks founder and CEO, Howard Schultz on why Starbucks can command a premium for their coffee, why you need to celebrate your mistakes and Starbuck’s philosophy.
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Raise Your Game- A Charity Project
As some of you know, I am part of the Asia Professional Speakers, Singapore (APSS). As speakers and trainers, we have decided to do what we do best and give back to the community by presenting a seminar called “Raise Your Game”. We will donate all the money we have collected from this seminar to the Singapore Cancer Society.
In this program, you will get to listen to top notch speakers in Singapore on Mindset Change, Increasing Productivity, Attracting people to you, Steps to raise your career, increasing your memory power, service excellence and much more!
Date: 1 Mar 2010
Time: 0845-1730
Place:Singapore
Lecture Theatre 23, 3rd floor,
SIM Headquarters, 461 Clementi Road
Cost: $188
To register or donate, click here.
Here is the line up of speakers:
Play a Higher Service Game in 2010…and Win
Ron Kaufman
Lessons from Everest:
Climbing High when Everyone Else is Feeling Low
David Lim CSP
5 Key Steps to Success to Consistently Raise Your Game
Shirley Taylor
Turning Everyday Struggles into Everyday Greatness
Dr William Tan
Simple Strategies for Becoming a Magnet for Success
Christian Chua
Raise Your Career, Raise Your Team and Raise Your Life!
Michael Podolinksy CSP
Raise your Game by Maximising your Memory Power
Nishant Kasibhatla
To register or donate, click here.
I appeal to that you come for this event. As you learn and be empowered, you are also giving back to the community. Let’s do our bid and show love for our fellow friends.
Do forward this blog link to your friends!
What Is The Most Inspiring Thing You Heard From Your Boss?
This post is short. What is the most inspiring thing you heard from your boss? Watch this hilarious video that changed this person’s life.
Well… I can’t argue with that logic… hehehehe
Great Leadership And Principles That They Live By
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In my previous blog post, I asked people to define “what is leadership to you?”
There were a lot of great definitions and answers that were contributed and allow me to share with you mine.
Leadership is all about INFLUENCE. It is about who listens to you when you speak and how much influence you have over them. People who have higher influencing ability tend to have a larger group of people following them. If you want to know whether you have strong leadership ability, it is pretty simple. Just look behind and check if anyone is following you.
Most people tend to find leaders by their titles given to them, eg. he’s the group leader or she’s the director of this department. However, I want to caution you that this is the lowest level of leadership. This is because you can be a leader by position, but that does not mean that you will be able to lead people by their hearts. A higher form of leadership exists where people follow you simply because of what you say, stand for and believe in, rather than your position.
So, how do you influence more people? I would like to suggest that there are many ways, but I will list down a few principles:
1. Move in integrity. When you are integral in your life (meaning, your thoughts, actions and speech are coherent), people will have more faith and trust in you.
2. Willing to spend time and invest in people. When you develop a person’s life in some area, whether through coaching. mentoring or teaching, you are demonstrating that you are truly interested in their growth.
3. Establish clear communications. Everyone knows exactly what you mean and will not misinterpret your message. To have less communication breakdown, you will need to spend time with people (point 2).
4. Lead themselves well. A great leader leads himself or herself well, with or without people around them. They understand that their credibility and consistency is important before people listens to them.
It is in my firm belief that anyone can develop in their leadership ability, since it is an observable behaviour. However, to be a great leader, you must have outstanding character and talent as well. Before you lead others, lead yourself first!
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